There is a great tragedy in the earth. It’s a separating epidemic killing relationships….
Seeing people as they were, not as they are.
Memory can be a great tool and a powerful weapon. Depending upon the force of the moment, the past can be more real than the present.
If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come. Now all these things are from God, (2 Cor 5:17-18)
It is the height of selfishness to exalt our memory over the work of the Lord. Seeing people as they were reinforces our offense, pain or anger. In order to legitimize how we feel, we blind ourselves to the process of the Lord in another’s life.
Not only are we blind, but we are separated from the abundant life made available through that person. The work of the Lord in them is a potential geyser of heavenly grace bringing us healing and freedom. Unfortunately, too many spurn this truth believing its unfair that such a one can simply change and move on.
It can be painful to witness a past offender change and be healed by Jesus. It’s so much easier to hold on to our feelings when they continue in the lifestyle that caused them. But their transition puts the weight of forgiveness and healing squarely on our shoulders.
A trait of this epidemic is projecting our wounds onto innocents. How many women have been hurt by one man and now believe all men will do the same? One leader, one father, one friend wronged me–therefore all will.
The real lesson here is to realize the most important work of the Lord is not in the other person, but in us. For some, its easier to see another’s newness than our own. Accepting our own “new creation” status is the key to welcoming the same in someone else.
It is time be healed and live fully in the Healer. His grace is truly sufficient. The One who made another new is at the ready to do the same in you. Let His love climb over the walls time and hurt built and heal you. To see people as they are, not as you remember them, could be the greatest gift you ever offer them.
Start with the one in the mirror.